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There are few aspects of kink that are as misunderstood as Daddy Doms and their little girl submissives. Part of me has always wanted to care for someone, to take care of them, protect them, and build a life with them.
One of my recurring sexual fantasies is, I admit, so tame it is hardly sexual. I fantasize about someone wanting a family with me. Which is why someone like me laughs when people mistakenly believe that having a Daddy Dom as a partner means you want to have sex with your father. In the context of a BDSM relationship, having a Daddy Dom may not even mean that traditional BDSM sexual activities are engaged in, but rather that there exist clearly defined power dynamics, guidance, and instead of the anticipated punishment forms of reward. Some men want to dominate their women. They want to own them and have them do as they are told, particularly when it comes to sex.
But what happens when that man is more of a nurturer than a sadist? A Daddy Dom will do everything he can to help his little girl be the best person she can be. Sometimes this means he will punish her, not for the enjoyment of the punishment, but because it is for her own good. Similarly, the little girl submissive worships her Daddy Dom. She will do anything to please him because she knows that he makes it his mission to care for her and to protect her.
Since she is secure in his feelings for her, she trusts her Daddy and submits to him completely. In return, he fulfills her needs and disciplines her when she needs it. They are open and honest about their sexual needs and kinks. While they may incorporate elements of ageplay, this is not their focus. However, like all relationships — each one as unique as a snowflake and it is difficult to generalize. Sunny Megatron adds to this definition. A Daddy Dom is first and foremost a Dom. A Daddy Dom does not promote incest or pedophilia as the kink may be misunderstood by ignorant people.
And while some doms and some subs may have been victims of family violence, incest, or other abuse, Daddy Doms and their girls are not overrepresented in these any more than the general population. Broadly, what motivates the Daddy is an understanding that adults are not always mature. Producer of the Fantastic Beasts films, David Heyman , provides a parallel perspective. Recently, he spoke about the appeal of a character like Albus Dumbledore and the casting of actor Jude Law.
So you have that but also have this youthful energy and jubilance. So he brings that twinkle, mischief, authority, and power, but at the same time brings far more youthful energy to the film. You understand why he would be your favorite teacher and be someone you believe is an extraordinary wizard.
We speak offhandedly as though this is known. We are surprised and somehow delighted or awkwardly intimidated to see people out of their normal routine because it means, finally, we begin to see them as real people. The embrace, even the welcoming of it, provides the fuel for exploring something that feels safe because these masks, the facade of the superficially protected, are set aside to reveal a liminal space of delight and fear in equal measure.
It would be so understandable if we were to feel we wanted someone like this in our lives, especially at moments of confusion and chaos. The longing for a strong father has been a recurring theme in history. Most religions have conceived of their central divinities as male parents. The longing has been no less present in secular culture.
In early childhood, we are all immensely weak and in need of protection. A grown man inevitably and rightly seems immensely impressive to a small child. They appear to know everything: the capital of New Zealand, how to drive a car, how to say a few words in a foreign language, how to peel an avocado. They go to bed mysteriously late. Perhaps he was more interested in another sibling or in his work.
The longing can incline to us some tricky patterns of behaviour. We secretly yearn for a man to step in and fulfill an unquenched fantasy role. They may know very well what we want, and naively or cynically promise to provide it for us, but gradually — too late — we stand to realise that they had a thousand flaws, as we all do. The good daddy disappoints us just as soon as we are strong enough to bear reality. Out of love they deflate the idea that there could ever be a perfect, ideal daddy. They try as best they can to help us grow up. If we encounter someone who has daddy issues, the temptation is to get frustrated, tell them to mature, mock them and — in particular — poke fun at the particular daddy figure they might have identified.
It simply tends to entrench their devotion — because, whenever we are attacked, we of course feel ever more intensely than ever the need for the protection of an idealised father. When you had a cold, she brought you toast and soldiers in bed. She was very interested in small things about you, like how you did in the school geography exam or the graze you got on your knee in the running race. And when you mess up, your troubles are hers. She will put her own needs aside for you. You are likely to understand — eventually — what she did, but only years later, and maybe too late to return the kindness.
As adults, we often demand this sort of love of each other — and are likely to make a bitter discovery in the process: that we cannot now find again the love we knew as children. We rage against this and blame the other person for their inability to perfectly intuit our needs, until the day we reach a true maturity, realising that the only release from our longing for this sort of love is to stop demanding such love for ourselves and to learn to give it to somebody else, perhaps . It is one of the most fascinating aspects of religions that they fully recognise the strength of our need for a mummy.
In Catholicism, in shrines around the world, the sorrowful, the sad and the desperate will glance up at an image of Mary, light candles, say prayers and speak of their individual griefs to a mother who is symbolically the mother of all believers. From a robustly rational perspective, devotion to Mary seems to exemplify religion at its most infantile and soft-headed. How could any reasonable adult trust in the existence of a woman who lived several thousand years ago if she ever lived at all , much less draw comfort from a projected belief in her unblemished heart, her selfless sympathy and her limitless patience?
The drift of the question is hard to refute; it is simply the wrong question to raise. The apposite point is not whether the Virgin exists, but what it tells us about human nature that so many Christians over two millennia felt the need to invent her. Our focus should be on what the Virgin Mary reveals about our emotional requirements. In the broadest sense, the cult of Mary speaks of the extent to which, despite our adult powers of reasoning, our responsibilities and our status, the needs of childhood endure within us.
While for long stretches of our lives, we can believe in our maturity, we never succeed in insulating ourselves against the kind of catastrophic events that sweep away our ability to reason, our courage and our resourcefulness at putting dramas in perspective and throw us back into a state of primordial helplessness. To be seen, in any way, as babyish, childish or in need of mummy is to risk being scorned as an incompetent adult. Yet the needs are real. And we pay a price for dismissing them. We become desperate and feel very lonely. We might turn harshly on ourselves — getting angry because we feel ashamed of being weak.
For their part, Buddhists have evolved the figure of Guanyin for the very same reasons as Catholics invented Mary. She too has kind eyes and can suggest alternatives to despising oneself. In temples and outdoor plazas across the East, adults allow themselves to be weak in her presence. Like Mary, Guanyin has a measure of the difficulties involved in trying to lead a remotely adequate adult life. Guanyin does not act powerfully to solve our problems. She regards us with tenderness, when no-one else will, and strengthens us to face the tasks of life.
Modern society struggles to update what such figures as Mary and Guanyin represent. It is easy to label as childish needs which should really be honoured as more generally human, for there is in truth no maturity without an adequate negotiation with the infantile and no such thing as a grown-up who does not regularly yearn to be comforted like . Psychoanalysts would agree. Only the brittle and unnaturally haughty would attempt to deny their weaknesses. In religious ages in Europe, images of loving mothers were displayed in multitudes of shrines, temples and churches or on the sides of buildings.
So the reassuring, generous message could reach people wherever they happened to be. Today, we have no problem at all with messages being displayed in public places — only they are more likely to concern the possibility of buying a special kind of sports shoe or advising us on how we can save a bit of money on car insurance.What is daddy dom
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